TUNED IN MODULE 6

Transcript

Welcome to Module 6. This is such a necessary component to feeling more relaxed in parenting your kiddos. In my experience of working with many families, I have fully accepted what I believe is a truth that kids will pinpoint their parents' blind spots.

I've seen it again and again. For example, the child that's working on boundaries and is pushing their parents' boundaries every which way, generally they're shining light on a part of their parents' experience that is still processing, working on, and integrating what it means to have clear and consistent boundaries.

Another example, I was working with a mom who I had worked with her child for a long time. And then I was working with her a little bit. And her thing was really that I just feel like I do so much for my daughter and she's not grateful.

She just literally acts, I think her words were like an entitled brat in the honesty of her experience. And when we dug a layer deeper, it turned out that this mother was struggling to fully accept and be in gratitude for the life that was in front of her.

She was feeling a lot of victim mentality, like everything's happened to me. I'm just comparing it to other people and my life isn't good enough. And when she unpacked her own wounding around what it means to be grateful.

And some of that included looking at experiences in her own life where by her own parents, she was told she was just an ungrateful brat. She got to heal that part of her, show up with more integrity, more clarity, more gratitude, and then she saw the same in her child.

So we all have a different set of beliefs when it comes to life, what's true, philosophy, psychology, I'm asking you for this module to just try on the idea that things that are feeling charged and triggering in your child's experience to your system, likely have some clues for you around what wants and needs to be healed in order for you to show up to parenting moments with your child in a way that's just simply less charged.

We've talked about the mirror neuron system monkey see monkey do. If you're able to feel less charged around some of these experiences that your child is very charged around, they will receive that modeling from you that imprinting from you and then you'll see a difference in the way that they handle it.

So just another example. I love this one. My my stepson he's definitely just a highly passionate, highly spirited child with lots of energy in his body. And I love it when his dad, my husband has moments of being so frustrated that this child can't regulate and ask for what he wants instead of just kind of coming at the people in his life with anger.

And the best part about that is that his dad, my husband is in that same experience like, why can't you just do it? And it's this idea that when we're in a grounded moment, we're able to communicate, and we'll talk about this later in co -parenting, like, I get it.

I know that you're really frustrated that your small child can't ask for what he needs, but you see that you're doing the same thing. Like, do you see that you're also stuck in a little boy part of you that doesn't know how to just appropriately manage frustration, consider what boundary needs to happen, consider what needs to be communicated, and then provide that with neutrality.

So in today's module, I will provide a little bit more of an introduction on this topic. We'll talk about self -care, why and how. We'll talk about self -regulation, why and how. And then we'll talk about self -healing, why and how.

I could offer an entire course on this, and I probably will at some point. So just take the parts that feel good, leave the parts that don't as always. And if you take away one nugget of information that can shift how you parent this week with your family, I feel that that's enough.

So no pressure and enjoy this conversation. So I just want to read, actually. I have a very clear written intention for every module that I share here, and usually I don't share it specifically because I feel like it's just embedded in the process and the lecture and the exercises, but I want you to hear the intention today.

So just allow yourself to receive that the intention for this module is for parents to take radical self -responsibility for their experience and to feel empowered to shift their reality from the inside out.

I'll read it one more time. The intention for this module is for parents to take radical self -responsibility for their experience and to feel empowered to shift their reality from the inside out. This is meant to be empowering.

It's meant to help you feel that you have control over your experience because of the science of mirror neurons and the science of the attachment system. When you shift your inner world, when you relax into a more regulated state, the other people in your life, especially your children, will meet you in that place.

And ultimately, You're the only one that has control over your regulation for better and for worse. You have control over getting dysregulated in response to others around you. And you also have control for choosing not to give your nervous system away, like not to give your own regulation away because someone else, including your kiddos are going through a thing.

So as we start to explore this topic, as I mentioned, I'd love for you to just be aware of the mirror that our children provide for us and that if we start to believe that everything in front of me is serving as some reflection for a part of me that's stuck and wants to be understood more, completed in some way and integrated into a deeper sense of self, we can start to get excited when we're feeling stuck points.

Like, ooh, that's feeling stuck in charge. That's probably something that I need to work on. And today we'll talk about tools to be able to work on it. So I was just listening to a podcast on highly sensitive kiddos, the Raising Good Humans podcast, and Dr.

Anne Louise Lockhart was interviewed. It's a great podcast episode. I'll share the link here. But something that really stuck out to me is the two psychologists in the podcast were talking about the importance of not over -personalizing your kiddo struggles, especially if you're a highly sensitive person yourself, and we'll talk about that in the next module.

It's really easy to meet our kiddos in the depth all the time. And while it's imperative that we meet highly sensitive children in their depth, because otherwise they can feel really alone in that part of their personality, we don't want to meet them in it all the time and be projecting our own depth onto them.

So, so easy to see yourself and your child. They have 50% of your genetics. But we want to be able to empathize and attune and reflect on whom. Like I'm seeing my six year old feeling left out with other kids at school.

I get that. I remember a time that I was left out and it made me feel like maybe I'm not good enough and you can just attune and then be curious about your child's own unique experience instead of projecting your whole unprocessed experience.

You don't want to be that parent that gives a 45 minute lecture on what happened to you and how you dealt with it and what you did, and you want to, sometimes if your child's asking for that, offer that, but more importantly, empathize by reflecting back on a moment you experienced something similar and then connect with your child in this very moment and attune to what's happening now.

If we haven't taken care of ourselves, like by engaging in regular self -care, if we haven't learned our own regulation tools, if we haven't done our own healing, it's really difficult to do what I was just talking about, to not project on our kiddos.

So taking a breath, um, and now I want to talk a little bit about self -care. There's a lot of talk in new age, psychology, spirituality, just mainstream Instagram, honestly, about self -care and the importance of it in the morning routine.

I want to try to offer a different perspective because self -care doesn't necessarily mean having a two hour morning routine, getting a massage, going for a walk, you know, drinking a bunch of water right when you wake up.

Like yes, those things are important, but self -care is truly just making a commitment to stay in connection to yourself. And that could be by two minutes of slowing down while you're taking a shower and actually feeling what's happening inside of you, like really checking in, like, how are you doing with yourself?

It might be like making sure that you've scheduled, um, you're weak really well, that you've like done the logistical work to make sure that you have a moment to eat lunch. Um, and it's really this commitment to self -awareness, self -love, self -compassion, and doing our own work.

You might've heard the expression, well, if you've flown on a plane, you have, um, put your life mask on first before you support your children or others. Um, it's just like that. Like we're really no use to our kids if we haven't put our life mask on first, and they don't really want us around them if we don't have our life mask on.

So I'm asking you to just consider like, in what ways have you not put your life mask on? And you'll know, and you'll know, you'll know what needs to happen. Um, I also just want to put a plug in here and say that postpartum depression and anxiety is a real thing.

I know that's not argued against too much. in the mainstream culture, but I think sometimes we forget that not only are there hormonal shifts happening, but your whole life is transitioning when you go from not being a parent to being a parent or from having one child to two to three.

And I really encourage you to validate any part of yourself that's experiencing depression or anxiety. And for dads too, you might be experiencing this. It's not just about the hormonal shifts. It's about the shifts in the system and a massive life change, which can come from, which can come with some struggles of depression and anxiety.

So please be tender and compassionate with yourself as you take as long as you need to get grounded in what it means to have a family and to be a parent. And when those depressive or anxious parts are coming up, it's like, oh yeah, that makes sense.

Self compassion is a really important part of self care. Fostering self love and modeling that to kids, modeling a lifelong loving relationship with yourself that is just so crucial for sensitive kids that often have that piece of low self esteem that we've talked about.

Kristin Neff is a psychologist and she talks about including yourself as a parent in the circle of self compassion. So being a really good friend to yourself, which actually isn't supported at all in our culture, like we're told that if you're compassionate to yourself and you take care of your own needs, then you're selfish.

Or in so many ways, the products were being sold one is to believe that we're not good enough unless we have this thing. However, I love how Kristin Neff talks about this. She talks about how there's actually a lot of research that shows that compassion and self love and like being really kind and patient with ourselves doesn't undermine our motivation, it enhances it.

So we might be thinking, but if I'm really slow down, and I'm nice with myself, then I'm not going to be as productive or motivated. That's not the case. And Kristin Neff is actually the mom of a son on the autism spectrum.

So she meets really big feelings, really big dysregulation, and she works on embodying this. So when your child's melting down, she suggests, could you actually focus on yourself first and honor? This is really hard for me right now.

This is not how I thought it was going to be. This is not how I thought my day was going to go. And I wish this wasn't happening, like honor and validate the pain of being a parent in that moment, and then meet the moment in a regulated state.

Not only are you tending to yourself in that moment, which is so important, but you're modeling to your child what it would feel like for them to tune in and regulate before lashing at you or becoming smaller.

So it's not just for you to include yourself in the circle of self -compassion. It's also for your kiddo. And we're really re -parenting ourselves in those moments. Like the little girl in me that was really overwhelmed a lot of the time and maybe didn't have, not to the fault of my parents, just a different time, like a different generation where we weren't as focused on kids' feelings.

My parents were more focused on a lot of the time, like doing the right thing. And having us be academically successful, which is a great tool to have. I wasn't necessarily given a sense of peace and calm and you're okay and you're safe in those moments when I was feeling overwhelmed.

So when my child is getting overwhelmed, that little girl in me is going to get activated. And in the circle of self -compassion, I'm re -parenting that activated part in me with my adult woman mother.

And I'm saying, Sophie girl. little Sophie, six -year -old me, it's okay. This moment isn't everything. This moment will pass. You've got it. You're okay. You're okay. You're okay. And so you're giving it to yourself, your inner child, you're coming off the ledge with this idea of self -compassion, and then you're able to show up to your actual six -year -old, your child in an entirely different way.

And I mentioned this before when we were talking about the brain and the nervous system, but calm is not the goal. This comes from Lisa Dion, who developed that nervous system handout. Connection to self, connection to your child is the goal.

So if I'm connected to myself, I can be regulated. I can be in that center column of poised and being able to speak clearly, but I'm not necessarily calm, and that's okay. In this moment, I would say I'm a little bit activated.

Let's do a check -in in real time just to share what this could be like. I'm feeling still, as usual, a little bit of anxiety and pressure to share content that's useful and that's tangible. A little bit of self doubt comes up.

It's not an entirely comfortable experience that I'm in in this very moment, but my parasympathetic nervous system is turned on because I'm staying connected to the experience that I'm having instead of avoiding it, which will naturally send my system into that fight, fight, or freeze response.

Calm is not the goal. The goal is to stay connected to the experience that you're having. I mentioned with the intention, the goal is really to take radical self -responsibility for our lives. There's a mother that I love to work with.

I worked with her son for a while, and she just went through my Woman's Soul Journey program. We're near the end of our process, and she's been doing T -shirts. work around healing her inner child, stepping into her true and authentic self, which is really for kids to see that, like a parent stepping into true authenticity is just so supportive, especially for the sensitive exceptional child.

But anyway, so we've spent the good portion of our journey together, focusing on her own healing, trusting her body, knowing her body. And just yesterday, near the end of her process, she noticed in the corner of my office, there's a little note that says, take radical self responsibility, take radical self responsibility.

And she said, Oh, I just noticed that now I'm ready for that. You know, she had done her own work to get grounded again and take ownership of the story of her life. And now she's ready to take radical ownership of her life to really hold herself to a higher standard when it comes to showing up for her kids and showing up for herself.

There's a quote by Gabriel Maté, an MD that has amazing work. I encourage you to look up Gabriel Maté if you haven't heard of him. In his book, Scattered Minds, he says, children swim in their parents' unconscious like fish swim in the sea.

It's a good idea to make sure the water stays clear. Children swim in their parents' unconscious like fish swim in the sea. It's a good idea to make sure the water stays clear. We have to look at our subconscious.

We have to look at the unintegrated parts. If something is charged in front of us, it generally means that it's a part of our unconscious getting activated to be looked at. Things that are already healed and integrated and conscious don't impact us like that.

They just don't. For example, when I first started being a therapist, I used to get really nervous before every session. This is at the very beginning, like when I was in my practicum. I knew I was working on an unconscious part of me that was coming up for healing to become conscious, that was working on whether I'm enough, whether I'm even meant to be in this role, whether I can trust myself.

That doesn't happen anymore. I don't get nervous before sessions because I've integrated that part of me. It's become conscious. It's become part of my makeup. It's no different for parts of us that are getting illuminated by our kids on our parenting journey.

When just building off this idea of radical self -responsibility, our relationship with our environment is everything. I had a teacher named Tristan Bey. He's the developer of Atuma Therapy. He would talk about what creates depression isn't our environment.

It's not that our environment is bad. It's our relationship with our environment. If we're viewing our experience as bad and dark and dismal, we will feel depressed. what's right, what's going well, what do we love about it?

Then we don't have that experience of inner depression. So as you change your relationship with your environment, with your family, exactly as it is with your child, exactly as they are, your inner experience will change.

And then because of those mirror neurons, because you're then coming at a situation for more presence integration regulation, the environment will end up changing too. Awesome. Thanks for taking that in.

And you may want to go back and take in some of the nuggets again, but I just want to underline that these are some big themes. But if they are embodied, a lot can change. So now I want to talk about self -regulation, the second portion of this lecture.

We practice the containment technique in the grounding meditation. You didn't listen to that yet. I really encourage you to practice that one. It's a really good way to contain content that that's not useful to be present in the moment and let your system truly be here now.

What it does when we're containing extra process, extra stuff, is it turns off the middle part of our brain, the emotional centers, the old memories coming up. And it allows us because then that experience that is kind of coming back in and in and in is contained.

And we can turn on the prefrontal cortex more. If you're just listening to this module and you haven't gone in the order of the modules, just know that this is building off earlier modules around the brain and the nervous system.

So if this doesn't make sense to you now, it will if you go back and listen. And yeah, you know, the experience of like, you're trying to be present with your child and they do all they wanted for you to play.

And if you could just give them five minutes of attunement, it would all be okay. But actually, you're thinking about the hard conversation that you had with your boss or your spouse. We have to learn how to contain energy if we want our kids to learn containment, if we want them to learn how to have feelings and process it as for what they need, but also be able to contain the experience.

So it's not just like, you know, like vomiting all over the people around them energetically. And we have to learn this tool of containment. And if you are committed to your own healing journey, then then containment will be really important because things come up and it gets sometimes it gets harder before it gets better when you're doing your own inner work.

Positive affirmations are a really great way to keep your system operating in a state of positivity and wellness instead of trauma and victim. I'm just going to name a couple see how it would feel to embody these if you're experiencing like guilt or dysregulation or anything like that around your parenting.

I am safe. I am grounded. I love my kids by loving myself. My kids need me to see me following my dreams so that they can know how to follow theirs. My kids need me to see, my kids need me to be regulated and to engage in self -regulation so that they can learn how to do the same.

Space for my kids is good for my heart and soul and it's also healthy for my kids. Because they learn how to attach to themselves. I can handle hard moments and still access presence and joy. All parts of me and my experience can be loved and lovable.

I created this amazing life and my life is amazing. So you're just starting to operate from a place of this is good. I've got this. What I'm doing is right and correct. You can write your own any journaling practice where you're choosing to engaged with positive affirmations will be really important.

And I've talked, I talk about this a lot in my practice. I haven't talked about it yet in the course, but when, when you're giving your system beliefs, so like just cognitions, whether they're positive or negative, like don't be, don't be dysregulated.

Don't be stupid. Don't be, don't be selfish. You know, like all your system hears is the label. They don't hear the positive or negative. So it's really important that we use appropriate language. It might be better to think of it as if you say, if you are saying to your child, like stop yelling so loud, like stop being so much.

All they're hearing is yelling so loud and so much, and they will actually engage with those things more. So we want to be really careful around, around our language. It's, it's like the brain science of what the brain hears and perceives and be using language that our brain is going to really like, like I'm safe.

It's all good. I can handle it because we'll, we'll actually start to embody those ways of being more and so will our kids. Last part of this self -regulation piece. And, and you can always go back to the regulation material that I've shared around how to help your child regulate because it's the same for you.

Just like basic tips on putting the prefrontal cortex back on when we talked about the brain model of engaging in things that turn on the parasympathetic rest and digest, but I'm going a layer deeper here because I think you've got that.

Like we know we need to regulate and turn on the relaxed nervous system. But another important piece is knowing how to process emotions well. We can't ask our kids to effectively be with emotions, move them through, and then make sense of them if we're not doing this ourselves.

The psychological term for it is called emotional assimilation. So just think about the word assimilation. It means like taking in a concept making sense of it and then blending it with our sense of self so that we can move forward with that information.

There is an entire blog post that I wrote a year and a half ago on the steps to do this. Well, this has been really helpful for parents and other adults that I've worked with to the title of the post is called replace the pressure to stop being so sensitive with learning how to properly process big feelings and make sense of them.

So you can you can look into that step by step guide, but I just want you to think about emotions, energy and motion aren't here by accident. They come here to give us information. So if we're feeling really sad or we're feeling grief, likely we're processing something we really care about.

Like the sadness is telling me, I care. Like this matters to me. I need to properly grieve for your child. It could be as simple that they're grieving. They don't get to buy the toy that they really wanted.

Like in that moment when they saw the toy on the shelf at Target, they planned an entire future that involved having that toy and they're experiencing loss. And I know it sounds silly, but this idea that a child size problem to a child is a really big problem.

It's equivalent to an adult problem. Like, you know, losing this house you really wanted. We have to start meeting our kids in the magnitude of the experience that they're having. Anger tells us so much around where we need to set a boundary.

Just think about the animal instincts. Like if you're feeling angry and aggressive, you're trying to protect yourself. I was feeling really angry. I wouldn't say angry, but frustrated last night because my husband was being really like loud and distracting and on his phone around the time, well, way past the time that I knew I needed to go to sleep so I could have a productive day.

And I was starting to feel this like anger in my system. And I wanted to say, stop, you're so annoying, you know, like just this dynamic that we could all get into with our loved ones. But I was feeling into the anger and it was like, Oh, I just have a boundary.

I have a discussion that will have, whether it's next time I need to sleep in a different room so that I can make sure I unwind if he's not in a place to unwind. And maybe it's that I need to ask him again, even though I have other times, we're just maybe in a different way that will work.

Like if you're going to be doing all the things on your screens, when I know I need to get to sleep for my body to be at its best, like can you wait? Can you do that in a different room? And can you make sure you're calm when you come in?

So it's just an example. It's like, let's use the emotions. Um, in a useful way. And that doesn't mean that it's comfortable. Like it's like the anger can feel like a lot in your system, but you want to process it and assimilate it before you bring it to someone else.

Otherwise you're projecting. And I, I'm sure you can start to think about ways you've projected your own emotional experience onto someone else and made them wrong instead of working with it yourself and then, um, engaging in a conversation.

There will be more on this in the co -parenting section around how to healthily communicate what you need, um, but just planting seeds here. And I won't, I would love for you to have just a moment of humility around where you've been asking your child not to project and throw their feelings on you when in actuality, this is something that most of us haven't fully mastered.

And then, and yeah, just the one other feeling I wanted to touch on. I mean, there's so many feelings, just Google feelings wheel or lists of emotions and You'll remember how many different subtle experiences there are in the emotional body.

But when it comes to fear and anxiety, I just wanna underline that fear can be a really helpful emotion to tell us or to tell our kids where we need to be extra gentle with ourselves, where maybe we're having an intuition that something's not safe.

It's just important to get to know that emotion, to get to know when is this a healthy amount of fear? I have had fear coming on to record these modules because maybe there's part of me that doesn't know if I'm good enough, doesn't know if people will listen and receive, but it's a healthy amount of fear.

It's like, and I can still do it. Whereas if I have fear walking through an alley at night that there's a part of my intuition that's saying this actually isn't safe to be here on my own walking through, then I'll wanna listen to that fear and figure out what needs to happen.

And it's also important to distinguish true fear, like warning signal and just ruminating anxiety, because as we discussed with the nervous system regulation portion, if you're just in a dysregulated state because you've been triggered, all of that energy might turn into just ruminating hyperarousal in the mind that looks like anxiety.

So we're just learning ourselves. We're learning our systems. We're learning how and when to take information. Cool. And lastly, I'll say, it's important to start to pay attention to body sensations and like ask, you know, if there's tension in the chest, what is that?

If there's fire in the tummy, what is that? Because usually the emotions show up in somatic ways and ways in the body. So another reason why fostering the mind -body connection is so important so that you can get information and you can move emotions through.

Okay, so our last portion here, self -healing, as you've... taken on this journey, I'm sure you've come into contact with parts of you, younger parts of you that are wanting to be healed. Our children will do that to us, learning will do that to us.

And without the right support, it can become really overwhelming. But I want to encourage you in this very moment to feel supported and being given some information that might help your journey of healing, difficult parts that have been coming up.

And also that there's always space to get support. I'm such an advocate for therapists, couple therapists, coaches, whatever it is that you're struggling with, there's someone that specializes in that.

There was a time that I was feeling really stressed and in disagreement around how to manage money with my husband. And we now know like we can find the right person to support us with this. So we interviewed four or five different money coaches.

We found someone, this holistic money coach, who just totally gets it. And she helped us heal in a really deep way. Stories that we were each holding onto around what money is to us, what money means in relationship.

It was an amazing psychological process. And the content just happened to be around money at that time. But now that part of our family is much more regulated. So I share that just to say, you can get support.

And I also believe that when we slow down enough, when we listen to the messages that are coming up inside, we have so much power to heal ourselves, to heal the stuck wounded parts. So it's really important to know and tend to your own inner child, especially if you're a sensitive person and you so therefore you were a sensitive child.

I've gotten to know my inner child really well. I ask her questions. I make sure she's okay. If I'm getting really dysregulated, likely it's a younger part of me. So I get to slow down and say, okay, four -year -old Sophie, what's going on?

What do you need? Let's come. And then I can come back to my mature adult self. I'm remembering Bill Plotkin, amazing healer, psychologist. He writes the book, Wild Mind. And he talks about how in the introduction, most of the people in our culture actually emotionally don't develop past teenage years.

Like we're surrounded by a lot of people in our families at the store, in our workplace that are emotionally teenagers. And so we don't want to be reflecting back what we're seeing by most of the people in our culture.

We want to be activating this really mature, whole integrated, wise adult self that can look at a triggering moment and tend to a younger part of us that's getting activated, and then come back to this whole adult self.

The embodiment experience for this module will be an exercise intending to the inner child, so you'll get a felt sense of what that's like. I'll also post an article I wrote about the inner child and going into more detail around it, but I just want to plant seeds here because once again, this could be an entire other course, but if any part of you gets activated by considering inner child healing,

if your heart's saying, hmm, that sounds like something that might be good, and if you're having resistance to it, like, I don't know if that's for me, likely there's something there for you, so I encourage you to continue to look into that.

Lastly, there is a lot of research around epigenetics. of what gets passed down through our lineage. I live in a Jewish body, a European Jewish body, and I know that in my bones lives memories from a time that people that I was related to weren't safe to be themselves because they literally might get taken into concentration camps.

And I know this is dark and heavy, but it's important to look at the stories and the experiences that we're carrying in our bones, in our genes, and the healing work that gets to be done now. I had a teacher that focuses on ancestral lineage and the approach that she uses is called somatic archaeology, like looking at literally the archaeology of wounded parts in our bodies, in our soma, and healing them and shifting them.

And she always says that when you do the healing yourself, you shift seven generations back and seven generations forward. You really have the ability to create a different experience for your children by doing your own work.

So when I show up in fear, I can really tend to be anxious a lot of the time, whereas my husband tends to be depressed for different reasons in his own lineage. But when I show up in fear, I'm able to say, Sophie, you're free now.

You're safe and you're free. And this life is so well. And I don't want to be coming at my kids with fear. Like, I don't want to be like, Oh my God, stop, don't touch the stove. I want to say, Hey buddy, like back away from the stove a little bit, you know, that's dangerous.

So that his nervous system hears the boundary, don't get near the stove, but doesn't get activated in fear that creates his own sense of anxiety. Another teacher that I've worked with Dr. Tirtse Firestone, she wrote the book Wounds to Wisdom.

Such a good one. And she talks about, well, her suggestion, and I did engage in this with one point is writing a list of patterns that you see in your family. So for maybe the pattern is when it gets stressful, you avoid, or maybe the pattern is when it gets stressful, we push even harder and we get really overwhelmed and we need it to make it happen.

We need it to happen now. Or maybe there's patterns of codependence, or maybe there's patterns of when I'm feeling rejected by someone, instead of looking at the whole picture, I turn it into, I'm not good enough and I'm a bad person.

Just think about all the different patterns you could identify that you see in your parents and your grandparents. And when those are coming up, when you start to increase your awareness of the patterns, you actually say to yourself, the trauma train stops here because that was their experience.

And this is my experience and I'm making a different choice with so much more awareness with the self -compassion. with the self -regulation and with the self -healing. So I'll leave it at that for today.

I hope that this content landed well for you. And if anything came up to the surface that you spend some time with those parts of yourself, whether it's journaling, whether it's getting outside therapeutic support, whether it's talking to another family member or friend about wounded parts that are coming up for healing.

And it's as simple as that. When the hurt parts come up, they're ready to be looked at in a new way and completed and to be felt differently. So I commend you for doing this work. I thank you for doing this work.

And especially on behalf of your sensitive child, thank you for taking radical self -responsibility and looking at where you get to grow and shift so that you can support your child in the same. Take such good care and I'll see you for the next module coming down to the other side of our journey with these last four modules soon.

That's it.