I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a client ask me how to “stop being so sensitive” or a parent ask me how to control their highly sensitive child. This blog post outlines a step by step process for healthy processing of emotions so that your sensitivity can become your super power for showing up to your life with integrity and authenticity.

One of the most common issues that parents bring to our sessions is that they feel out of control in setting and respecting boundaries with their children.I am seeing over and over again that traditional disciplinary strategies particularly for the highly sensitive child do not work, and when parents set consistent and loving boundaries, most discipline is not necessary

I will cross your boundaries (and abandon my own that are already porous after years of practice in the art of careful attunement to Other) to make you feel seen, loved, and wanted in efforts to make you want and need me around and be less likely to leave…all in subconscious efforts to control. Ironically, there’s a high chance, I’ll actually be the one to run away from you.

Trauma occurs in the context of relationship - either someone was there to help you feel safe in a difficult moment that your body perceived as threatening, or you felt like you had to suffer alone. Therefore, when we find ourselves being overly anxious in our current relationships, we are actually re-enacting fear that is deeply embedded in our nervous system based on previous events.

Through processing traumatic events and developing a healthier relationship with yourself, you will likely find that situations that created massive unrest in your nervous systems, causing you to spiral into reactive anxiety, suddenly have much less charge. A sense of ease, confidence, and freedom in relationships can provide the safety and love necessary for you to step into the person you truly are.